You’re Not Scattered, You’re a Constellation

You’ve got too many tabs open in your browser and your brain.

One moment you’re deep in spreadsheets. The next, you’re storyboarding a workshop, writing copy, texting a supplier, reviewing a landing page—sometimes all before lunch.

It’s exhilarating. It’s exhausting. No matter how many productivity hacks you try, one feeling keeps coming up: “I’m scattered. I should just pick one thing.”

But what if that voice is wrong?

Proteus: The Danger of Constant Shifting

In Greek mythology, there was a sea god named Proteus—a master shapeshifter. He could morph into fire, water, lion, serpent—anything—to escape those who sought his wisdom.

But here’s the twist: if you could hold on to him long enough through all his forms, he’d eventually stop shifting... and speak the truth.

Ambitious people today are modern Proteuses.

We constantly shift between roles: founder, creator, athlete, spouse, consultant, learner, teacher. The ability to morph is what makes us powerful. And we're obsessed with adaptability and speed.

But when you’re always shifting, you’re always reacting. The deeper truths—what you actually want, what’s quietly draining you—never get a word in.

The key isn’t to stop shifting. It’s to occasionally hold still long enough to ask: Who am I becoming through all these roles?

Daniel Day-Lewis: The Danger of Going All-In

Now flip the script.

Daniel Day-Lewis is widely seen as one of the greatest actors of our time. He didn’t just play characters—he became them. On the set of Lincoln, he stayed in character for months, even off-camera. His voice. His posture. His thoughts. All Lincoln.

He won an Oscar. Then another. Then another.

And then, he disappeared. Eventually, he quit acting altogether, saying he no longer knew who he was outside the roles he played. The immersion that made him great had also hollowed him out.

That’s the other trap. Not fragmentation—but over-identification.

We all know founders who burn out, artists who can’t create after success, and professionals who spiral after leaving a job. The cost of over-identifying with a single role is emotional collapse when that role ends.

How to Live With Multiple Identities (Without Burning Out)

I’ve always worn many hats.

I studied culinary arts but taught myself design. Worked behind a bar while learning to code. Built a blog while working at AppSumo. Launched a yoga brand while running email experiments and writing content. Now I’m a founder, consultant, strategist, and still a creator at heart.

Most of the time, it works. But sometimes, when surrounded by people who’ve chosen a single lane, I wonder: Should I have picked one?

A few things I've learned the hard way:

• Switching too often without stillness? You lose clarity.
• Overcommitting to one identity? You lose freedom.
• Judging yourself by someone else’s one-dimensional path? You lose perspective.

Watching people like Tynan, Derek Sivers, and even Noah Kagan helped me see a better way. These are people who don’t cling to a singular identity. Their lives unfold in chapters. They commit deeply for a season, then reinvent. They stay focused when it matters, but stay dynamic overall.

It taught me something important: You don’t need to balance everything at once. You need to know what matters now—and let the rest wait.

Here’s what’s helped me stay sane and intentional while wearing many hats:

1. Name Your Roles—Don’t Let Them Blend

Write down your current “identities.” Founder, marketer, creator, parent, coach—whatever they are. Naming them brings clarity. It turns chaos into structure. If you don’t name them, they’ll compete silently for your time and energy.

Quick action: List your 3-5 most active roles right now. You can do this in Notes or on paper in under a minute.

2. Batch Your Identities by Day or Block

​Context-switching is what drains you, not the number of roles. I try to give each identity its own time. Monday might be strategy and planning. Tuesday is for Wolo Yoga's marketing tasks. Friday is all about writing this newsletter. Weekends for the family, rest, and reset. You don’t need a perfect system—just a rhythm that reduces friction.

Quick action: Look at your calendar. Can you block 2–3 hours per week for just one identity?

3. Ask: Which Identity Needs to Lead This Season?

You can’t grow everything at once. Every season has a dominant focus. Right now, mine is Wolo Yoga. Yours might be health, or family, or building an audience. That doesn’t mean you drop everything else—it just means one identity gets the driver’s seat, and the rest sit in the back (for now).

Quick action: What identity needs to lead right now? Write it down. Make peace with it.

4. Surround Yourself With Multidimensional People

If everyone around you has “one job title,” you’ll feel broken for doing too many things. But when you’re in rooms with other layered, dynamic people, your chaos starts to look like clarity.

Quick action: DM or grab coffee with one person you admire who also wears multiple hats. Ask them how they manage it.

This isn’t about doing more. It’s about doing the right thing in the right season, with intention.

The Constellation Mindset

Most people search for a North Star. That one true calling. That single identity to anchor their life.

But maybe you’re not meant to follow one star. Maybe you’re meant to be a constellation.

A collection of roles, passions, and experiences that only make sense when you zoom out. Each one incomplete on its own—but together, unmistakably you.

Proteus reminds us to pause, or we’ll never hear our own truth. Day-Lewis reminds us not to lose ourselves in a single story. And your real power? It’s not in choosing one identity—it’s in learning how to live across many.

Connecting The Dots Stars

You’re not scattered. You’re layered. You’re not lost. You’re evolving. You’re not too much. You’re multidimensional. You don’t need to pick a lane. You need to see the map.

Zoom out. Look at how your identities connect. And here’s the better question:

What season are you in—and which identity needs to lead right now?

Hold still. Listen. The answer’s there.